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Suffering is Optional

When I first read the Buddhist saying, “Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional”, it felt like I found the key to happiness in print. It made perfect sense to me. Perhaps it resonated so clearly because I always tended to naturally live my life that way. I am one that recovers from pain quickly. It doesn’t matter if my pain is emotional, spiritual or physical, my focus has always been to lean into feeling better rather than prolonging suffering. It simply made more sense to me. Sometimes I wonder why… Read more Suffering is Optional

The Power of Perspective

Why is it that countless people can face essentially the same experiences in life and have different emotional responses to it? My theory is that it is simply because their mindset is holding a different perspective. Using the POWER of PERSPECTIVE is my favorite go-to tool whenever I am in a situation that is potentially frightening or intimidating or causing me to feel stuck. For instance, when being diagnosed with breast cancer, rather than focusing on the possibility of suffering or even dying, my mind automatically went to gratitude that… Read more The Power of Perspective

V is for Virtues and Victory (Part 1)

As a typical human being that is trying to do my best while navigating this adventure called life, I am learning what many folks may refer to as being old-fashioned rules, VIRTUES can come in very handy when you want to be VICTORIOUS in meeting a challenge. Although I did not set out to be virtuous when I embarked on the most challenging experience of my life, I am noticing many virtues have stepped up as my guides along the way. Now that I am through the worst of it,… Read more V is for Virtues and Victory (Part 1)

Season 2, Episode 1: Surgery

On the drive to the hospital last week, I closed my eyes (fear not, I was not the driver) and imagined all of my friends that signed up to be spiritually present and supportive for my surgery, lining up outside the O.R, preparing to surround me a few hours later. This image felt good. I was peaceful and ready for this next step in my treatment. It was a great opening for Season 2 of my Cancer Journey. Only a few days earlier, however, I was not feeling fearless or… Read more Season 2, Episode 1: Surgery


I sometimes have extremely vivid and often meaningful dreams. Thankfully, Chemo has not killed off my ability to produce these entertaining and often educational mini dramas that occur while I sleep. I recently had one of those dreams that caused me to continue to think about the message it provided once I awoke. My unconscious mind apparently wanted me to learn this lesson. In my dream, three former friends that all shared a common bond of misunderstanding and subsequently mistakedly attacking me for imagined offenses, all showed up together with… Read more Petty-Less


I find it ironic that having cancer has not disturbed me as much as losing my ability to function normally due to the side-effects of my Chemo treatments. Apparently, my fear of losing control is greater than the fear of losing my life. As I step back and watch myself navigate this journey, I can honestly say that I am not afraid to die. In fact, there have even been times such as during my hospitalization for kidney failure and severe dehydration after my first Chemo treatment that I seriously… Read more Surrender

Cancer and Politics: How to Navigate Both Without Losing Your Joy

Since I am simultaneously navigating my own journey through cancer and treatment as well as experiencing a highly volatile political time in our country, I am noting some similarities in how to maintain emotional balance that will support my wellbeing, rather than destroy it. Shortly before my diagnosis I announced to my Facebook friends that I was going to take a break from being a regular poster other than managing our business page and a private group I monitor. I had noticed that my time spent on social media had… Read more Cancer and Politics: How to Navigate Both Without Losing Your Joy