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Suffering is Optional

When I first read the Buddhist saying, “Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional”, it felt like I found the key to happiness in print. It made perfect sense to me. Perhaps it resonated so clearly because I always tended to naturally live my life that way. I am one that recovers from pain quickly. It doesn’t matter if my pain is emotional, spiritual or physical, my focus has always been to lean into feeling better rather than prolonging suffering. It simply made more sense to me. Sometimes I wonder why… Read more Suffering is Optional

V is for Virtues and Victory (Part 1)

As a typical human being that is trying to do my best while navigating this adventure called life, I am learning what many folks may refer to as being old-fashioned rules, VIRTUES can come in very handy when you want to be VICTORIOUS in meeting a challenge. Although I did not set out to be virtuous when I embarked on the most challenging experience of my life, I am noticing many virtues have stepped up as my guides along the way. Now that I am through the worst of it,… Read more V is for Virtues and Victory (Part 1)

Petty-Less

I sometimes have extremely vivid and often meaningful dreams. Thankfully, Chemo has not killed off my ability to produce these entertaining and often educational mini dramas that occur while I sleep. I recently had one of those dreams that caused me to continue to think about the message it provided once I awoke. My unconscious mind apparently wanted me to learn this lesson. In my dream, three former friends that all shared a common bond of misunderstanding and subsequently mistakedly attacking me for imagined offenses, all showed up together with… Read more Petty-Less

Surrender

I find it ironic that having cancer has not disturbed me as much as losing my ability to function normally due to the side-effects of my Chemo treatments. Apparently, my fear of losing control is greater than the fear of losing my life. As I step back and watch myself navigate this journey, I can honestly say that I am not afraid to die. In fact, there have even been times such as during my hospitalization for kidney failure and severe dehydration after my first Chemo treatment that I seriously… Read more Surrender